Keeping It Casual


College relationships can be a beautiful thing, but let’s face it: most of we students are looking for something a little more stress-free.  If you are looking for a more traditional experience of one night stands and debauchery, there are a few things to keep in mind.

Show confidence.

You’ve heard it before, but it can’t be said enough. Girls absolutely do not care about insecure guys! If you’re nervous, don’t over think it. Just take a deep breath and go for it. Eye contact and some subtle smiles will go a long way with any female. Be friendly, but be straight forward. If she’s as cute as you think she is, you’re probably the first guy to show self-esteem all night.

Talk about her.

Lovely college ladies like nothing more than talking about themselves. As important as it is to show confidence in yourself, you want her to feel good about herself too. Asking her questions won’t just give her a chance to talk about her life, but it will also put the ball in her court. Be straight-forward; ask her what you want to know about her. When she gets nervous, she’ll know you’re something special.

Show her your fun side.

The reason so many gorgeous girls spend College Night at the dance club and show up for every party is because they love having fun. Don’t sit there and bore her with a conversation when there’s music and alcohol everywhere. If she can be convinced that you spend your time with your face in a textbook every night, your odds are getting better and better. Take her out to where she wants to go, or bring her out with you and your boys; it doesn’t matter. Just take her out and she will thank you.

Avoid intimate talks.

If your goal is to keep things short-term, don’t complicate things by talking about each other’s failed relationships. If you need someone for support, you shouldn’t be looking for it in casual dating anyways. Creating a deeper interest and forcing sympathy will only instill a sense of care that doesn’t fade so quickly. If you keep the conversation light, you keep the situation light.

Be honest.

If you’re just looking for a one night stand or a quick fling, make sure she is too. The worst thing you can do is follow through with your intentions, only to find out that she wants more. Having fun and hurting someone are two different things. If she wants something different, better to know now so you can avoid those terribly awkward talks later.

Sometimes, even when intentions are mutually casual, feelings can occur. As long as your end of the street is clean, there is no reason to feel guilty. As long as you were honest, she knows what she was getting into. Of course the feelings might be yours. Maybe she returns these feelings, maybe she doesn’t. Just remember that if she doesn’t, it’s not you. It’s what you were looking for. If you maintain a fun, honest, casual atmosphere, you are sure to have plenty of excitement ahead of you.